Navigating Holidays Post-Halloween: Thanksgiving & Black Friday

Halloween is over.

The candy has disappeared from the grocery-store shelves. The Halloween pop-up stores have packed themselves into cardboard boxes and vanished for another year. America has moved on to the next commercial opportunity.

I’ve never been much of a Halloween celebrant. Maybe I’m just not comfortable messing with the spiritual unknown. You never know what you might accidentally invite into the neighborhood.

When I do dress up, I have a reliable fallback: Ricky “Wild Thing” Vaughn, the fastball-chucking relief pitcher from the baseball movie Major League, starring Charlie Sheen. The costume requires little more than a Cleveland Indians shirt and cap, horn-rimmed glasses, and an attitude problem. I can manage that.

Now Halloween is behind us, and we’ve arrived at the serious winter holidays.

First up: Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving has gradually become a second-tier holiday for me. That wasn’t always the case. Like many things, it changed when I left home for college.

My sophomore year, a classmate invited me to his house for Thanksgiving. In my junior year, I stayed on campus. Foreign students and those who lived too far away joined me in the peace and quiet of an almost empty campus. By senior year, I must have made it back to Laramie.

I don’t remember having a grand Thanksgiving epiphany during those college years. I discovered that Thanksgiving could happen without my family gathered around the table.

That may be one of the things that happens when you grow up. Holidays that once seemed permanently attached to home and familiar family traditions become movable. You leave home, and the holidays follow you, but they don’t necessarily look the same.

My most memorable Thanksgiving was attending the Rolling Stones in 2005. I worked the CU – Nebraska football game that used to be played the day after Thanksgiving when both teams played in the Big 12 Conference.

Then comes Black Friday, the annual commercial prelude to Christmas, when the country collectively decides that nothing says “peace on earth” quite like getting up before dawn to fight over a discounted Sony PlayStation.

I’ve never been much of a Black Friday shopper, either. At this point in my life, if I really need something, I’m better off buying it before Thanksgiving rather than standing in line at 5 a.m. with people who have been waiting all night for a 70-inch screen. I went to Radio Shack. When they went out of business, I didn’t go out on Black Friday.

But this year, I’m approaching Black Friday differently, as I did a few years back at the Tattered Cover bookstore in Denver.

On Black Friday, I’m releasing Not Exactly Holy, a devotional for the not-so-religious.

It seemed appropriate.

After all, the holiday season has always mixed the sacred and the commercial, the meaningful and the ridiculous. Thanksgiving asks us to pause and be grateful. Black Friday tells us to buy something. Christmas brings a little of both.

In the middle of all that, there’s room for a devotional written for people who aren’t entirely sure what they believe, or who don’t fit neatly into any usual religious boxes.

That’s why I wrote Not Exactly Holy.

Consider it my small contribution to the holiday season.

No assembly required. No early-morning shopping. As far as I know, no spiritual consequences.

‘What the Morning Brings,’ an homage to Hemingway

Are you a Hemingway fan? Check out my book!

Paris to Boulder, and Pamplona to Cheyenne: Reimagining a Hemingway Classic

Some books begin as an idea. Others begin as a conversation across generations. “What the Morning Brings” is a part of “The Libby Flats Saga” series. So far the Saga consists of three stories beginning with “The Gathering at Libby Flats” and “Vengeance! at Stone Creek.”

Best Chance Media released my historical fiction novel, “What the Morning Brings.” It’s fitting that the book comes out this month, since July 22nd is Ernest Hemingway’s birthday.

I adapted Hemingway’s classic “The Sun Also Rises,” which entered the public domain in 2022. Rather than retelling the story, I reimagined it for a different generation facing a different war.

Hemingway’s characters sought refuge in the cafés of post-World War I Paris. My characters find themselves in Boulder, Colorado, during the turbulent years of the Vietnam War. The antiwar movement gains momentum. Young people question authority. Veterans return home carrying wounds that aren’t always visible.

Jake Barnes, a Vietnam veteran and newspaper photographer, and Brett Ashley, a former military nurse turned antiwar activist, are at the center of the story. Like many people of their generation, they are searching for meaning in a world that no longer makes sense.

The story eventually leaves Boulder for Wyoming. In Hemingway’s novel, the climax unfolds during the Running of the Bulls and the bullfights of Pamplona, Spain. In “What the Morning Brings,” the action moves to Cheyenne and the Wild Prairie Stampede, where a fateful bull ride changes lives forever.

The novel explores friendship, love, loss, resilience, and the struggle to find one’s place in a rapidly changing America. While inspired by a literary classic, it’s also a story of the American West, the Vietnam era, and the people who lived through it.

As a writer and documentary filmmaker, I’ve long been fascinated by how history shapes individual lives. “What the Morning Brings” allowed me to revisit a pivotal period in American history while paying tribute to one of literature’s most enduring novels.

If you’d like to be among the first readers, autographed copies are now available. They cost more, but purchasing directly helps support independent publishing and allows me to personally sign each book before it ships. You can also order from your local bookstore or online retailer.

Thank you to everyone who has followed my writing journey. I look forward to sharing this new story with you.

Purchase your autographed copy today and join me on a journey from the streets of Boulder to the rodeo grounds of Cheyenne, where the promises of youth collide with the realities of war, love, and fate.

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The Emotional Journey of Swedish Death Cleaning

Today I drove a carload of boxes to Laramie and made the final major delivery for my Swedish death-cleaning project.

One destination was the American Heritage Center at the University of Wyoming in Laramie. The boxes contained decades of my life: research materials, hard drives, scrapbooks, manuscripts, photographs, films, books, and assorted records from projects that occupied countless hours over the years.

A separate box held watercolor paintings my mother created. Those went to the Laramie Plains Museum. Some will become part of the museum’s collection, while others will help support its mission through fundraising auctions.

As I handed everything over, I found myself experiencing mixed emotions. The handoff took all of 10 minutes.

Kind of anticlimactic, considering I’ve been sorting and sifting since the Wyoming Writers Inc. conference at the beginning of June. AHC staffer Brie Blasi asked if I’d donate my stuff.

Part of me felt a sense of relief. My materials are no longer stacked in closets, on shelves, and in corners, waiting for me to decide their fate. They now have a permanent home where they can be organized, preserved, and, if anyone finds value in them, used by future researchers, historians, students, or curious people.

Another part of me felt a touch of sadness. Every box represented a chapter of my life. The manuscripts reflected ideas I chased. The photographs captured moments that seemed important enough to save. The films documented stories and people I believed should be remembered. Letting go of them felt a little like saying goodbye to old companions.

Yet there was also comfort in knowing that I have not really lost them. If I ever need to revisit a project, confirm a memory, or look up some forgotten detail from my past life, I can make the trip to Laramie and review the materials. They are stored in a different place now.

This delivery marked the culmination of a process that has taken years. Along the way, I sold my grandmother’s Sony micro TV and Star Wars action figures I used for gender bias training. Colleagues purchased my sports card and political memorabilia collections. Other items found new homes through donations and gifts.

I hope the people who have received my stuff enjoy it. All my items spent years, sometimes decades, in my care. Collections are curious pursuits. We think we own them, but we’re only temporary caretakers. Eventually they move on to the next person, carrying their stories with them.

There’s little left. Some clothes. Some shoes. A few personal possessions. My car. The essentials.

I’m an organ donor. I imagine those will make it into worthy sick people if my parts aren’t too worn out.

What surprised me most about Swedish death cleaning is that it was never really about getting rid of stuff. It’s about deciding what mattered and what stories deserved a future beyond my shelves and storage boxes.

The works my mother painted will now have lives of their own. Some may hang on walls where people who never knew her will pause for a moment and admire her work. Others may help support a museum dedicated to preserving local history. In their own way, they will continue telling part of her story.

The same is true of the boxes I delivered. The manuscripts, photographs, films, and research materials represent a lifetime of curiosity and creativity. Long after I am gone, someone may open a folder, examine a photograph, watch a film, or read a manuscript and discover a small piece of the world as I saw it.

There is something comforting about that.

For years, I thought I was collecting things. Today, I realized I was collecting stories.

Now those stories belong to the future.

As I sit at an EV charging station writing this, listening to Jalan Jalan Crossland on Wyoming Public Radio & Media, I feel a sense of peace. My mother’s work has found a home. My work has found a home. The burden of holding on is replaced by the satisfaction of passing it all forward.

My final act of stewardship is not keeping material objects forever.

It’s about making sure they can continue their journey without me and not end up in the landfill.